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Jeremy Herve . @jeremy,

As I'm following more and more people here, I'm starting to see more and more of the things I don't like on other platforms:

  • Folks spreading FUD
  • Folks not assuming positive intent in their conversations
  • Subtooting

I stopped using Twitter because this kind of atmosphere wasn't good for my mental well-being. It wasn't a fun, rewarding, learning experience. The Fediverse felt more like that to me a few months ago.

On one hand, I know of a quick fix: keep my social circle small, unfollow when in doubt. On the other hand, not following more people doesn't widen my horizons, doesn't open me to more opinions, ultimately keeps me in a bubble.

Is there another solution I'm missing? Anyone have any tips?

Thank you!

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Tim Nolte . @tim,

@jeremy I heavily use filters and as needed temporarily mute people. Even when I filter I don't use it to completely remove the content but minimize it based on the filter label and if I so choose I can take a look. So far this has allowed me to follow many people, even those I may not totally see eye-to-eye on things with. It all keeps my timeline broad but less inclined to take a toll on me mentally.

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Julian Lam . @devnull,

@jeremy I unfollow quite regularly. I used to follow a certain thought leader because he posted a lot about and development but honestly it felt like 50/50 "fediverse is great" and "fediverse sucks still and this is why".

I'm much happier with @rabbiteveryhour filling my feed instead, but I'm not left out because other people I follow re-toot his popular toots.


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M. Fioretti . @mfioretti_en,


1/2 I am afraid there is no real solution.

Prove me wrong and I'll be happy.

But I think there cannot be any real solution, by definition. It's a general law.

I always quote flight and driving as examples. When cars and planes where invented, only very few people with very high skills, high motivation could use them. Here's the crucial point:

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M. Fioretti . @mfioretti_en,



humanly, those first adopters were surely not "above average", whatever average means. But it didn't matter.

Friendship, mutual respect among them came naturally, effortlessly, from that being very few, and nothing else.

But as planes and cars were democratized, which IS a good thing, everybody could get in. Including assholes, which will always exist as long as we are humans.

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Oblomov . @oblomov,

@mfioretti_en @jeremy on the upside (in contrast to cars) on the Fediverse there's plenty you can do to avoid those, so my recommendation would be to follow liberally to expand your view of the Fediverse, but just as liberally unfollow/mute/block. And use that Personal Note feature on profiles to remember why you did.

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M. Fioretti . @mfioretti_en,

@oblomov @jeremy

yes. My point is only that a) it would be naive to expect that the "atmosphere" of ANY "place" does not get worse, in one way or the other, when its residents increase 100, 1000, 1M times

and b), that the only solution is accept that, and learn to ignore what bothers you, as long sa it's possible

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Clayton Slaughter . @schmubba,

@mfioretti_en @jeremy I think there’s a form of isolation generating a form of invincibility that somehow yields a form of deception of omniscience. Then when each of us puts our level of that deception into words or car movements, whatever, we put the proverbial foot in our mouths, eventually.
Without the millions of cues from physical interaction, we mistakenly take others for the @[email protected] when in reality, we are being that.

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