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@jeremy I use keywords to block a lot of US politics and anything that upsets me and it's worked wonders!
I also mute or unfollow anyone who posts or boosts bad news the whole time.

@jeremy I followed a bunch of new people (and still do) but I do keep loose track of stuff I'm not into as you mentioned and unfollow as needed.

Still keep trying to widen my circle

@jeremy Unfollow after one or at most two signs of lame behavior….

@jeremy I heavily use filters and as needed temporarily mute people. Even when I filter I don't use it to completely remove the content but minimize it based on the filter label and if I so choose I can take a look. So far this has allowed me to follow many people, even those I may not totally see eye-to-eye on things with. It all keeps my timeline broad but less inclined to take a toll on me mentally.

@jeremy unfollow, mute, block block blockety block. Keep a clean timeline! Muting keywords (often names) is really helpful.

@jeremy I unfollow quite regularly. I used to follow a certain #Fediverse thought leader because he posted a lot about #Mastodon and #Calckey development but honestly it felt like 50/50 "fediverse is great" and "fediverse sucks still and this is why".

I'm much happier with @rabbiteveryhour filling my feed instead, but I'm not left out because other people I follow re-toot his popular toots.

Toooots.

@jeremy

1/2 I am afraid there is no real solution.

Prove me wrong and I'll be happy.

But I think there cannot be any real solution, by definition. It's a general law.

I always quote flight and driving as examples. When cars and planes where invented, only very few people with very high skills, high motivation could use them. Here's the crucial point:

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2/2

humanly, those first adopters were surely not "above average", whatever average means. But it didn't matter.

Friendship, mutual respect among them came naturally, effortlessly, from that being very few, and nothing else.

But as planes and cars were democratized, which IS a good thing, everybody could get in. Including assholes, which will always exist as long as we are humans.

@mfioretti_en @jeremy on the upside (in contrast to cars) on the Fediverse there's plenty you can do to avoid those, so my recommendation would be to follow liberally to expand your view of the Fediverse, but just as liberally unfollow/mute/block. And use that Personal Note feature on profiles to remember why you did.

@oblomov @jeremy

yes. My point is only that a) it would be naive to expect that the "atmosphere" of ANY "place" does not get worse, in one way or the other, when its residents increase 100, 1000, 1M times

and b), that the only solution is accept that, and learn to ignore what bothers you, as long sa it's possible

@mfioretti_en @jeremy I think there’s a form of isolation generating a form of invincibility that somehow yields a form of deception of omniscience. Then when each of us puts our level of that deception into words or car movements, whatever, we put the proverbial foot in our mouths, eventually.
Without the millions of cues from physical interaction, we mistakenly take others for the @[email protected] when in reality, we are being that.

@jeremy
Trial and error is how we make relationships with people IRL too. You can see who the people you follow follow, but there will still be bumps in the road.